Spurs had battled back to level the game at 2-2 after finding themselves two goals down when Defoe had a glorious opportunity to put Harry Redknapp’s men ahead, but the England forward was unable to meet Gareth Bale’s cross.
Roberto Mancini’s men then went on to secure a 3-2 victory after Mario Balotelli netted a penalty soon after the spurned chance.
Defoe believes Spurs, who travel to the Etihad again on Sunday afternoon, should have won the game and admits the missed opportunity haunted him for some time after the defeat.
“We should have won,” Defoe told the Daily Mirror. “If I am honest I felt throughout the game we were the better side. I played up front on my own and they had five in midfield. I scored, Gareth [Bale] scored and it was 2-2. Then we had that chance.
“Gareth played it across the box so that I could just tap it in, but I stretched and missed it. I was convinced that if I’d got to it I’d have got it in. After that, they got the penalty and scored to win the game.
“Looking back, I think maybe we were not meant to win on that day. It was all a bit mad. I thought about that miss afterwards for ages.”
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